Killer Chidley

One of the things I love about seeing Ben Calder at Shrewsbury’s Centre for Integral Health, is how his Kinesiology sessions make me think about myself. I first went to visit Ben thinking I was absolutely fine and there was nothing really to work on, but that is so far from the case. There are little traits of mine which I’ve found annoying but thought, “hey, that’s just the way I am”, but Ben can help reset the way I operate, he’s not changing my personality, just helping me cope with everyday situations. Now, every time I visit Ben, I have a list as long as my arm: how I’m feeling, how I’m coping, how I’ve dealt with something. Ben will simply guide me through it, helping me to understand a situation a bit better and then go on to help reverse certain areas in my brain by using Kinesiology, whether it’s due to low self-esteem, worry, confidence, fear, etc.

(See my other post: Kinesiology… Magic).

Last year when I went to visit Ben, after talking a lot, he realised I had an issue with applying assertiveness and fearing aggression, I put this to being a combination of my nature and a result of my past relationship (click here for →This is my story..), but when I’m competing on my bike, racing down a gnarly stage, aggression is good, it’s the fire within me I need to get down.

Ben is working on bringing out that “Killer Chidley” he knows is in me, it just needs guidance on how to enter the world.

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Ben used a clever and fascinating technique to reverse/reset the affected areas in my brain, which will help me feel more comfortable with assertiveness and less afraid of it.

Through using Kinesiology, Ben found other areas I struggled with, one of which is focus. So Ben started to help me, which would also contribute to helping apply my aggression. As well as guiding me and reassuring me that aggression is good and it’s not all as bad or as damaging as the aggression I have experienced in the past, it’s part of our survival and I depend on aggression to be a good racer, he recommended I start meditating.

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I must admit, until this point I had a very stereotypical view of meditation, and knew zero health benefits that came along with it and just saw how much valuable time it took up. However, I like to think I’m open minded and as soon as Ben mentioned meditation, I was interested. It’s certainly something I’d never thought about before, however, my lack of focus and assertiveness is something I’ve thought about and just assumed… that’s the way I am. If there was something I could do to change that, then I’m all ears. Ben also discovered my body was lacking in B5 vitamins which will help my brains overall functioning.

When I’m competing and racing my bike down a track, my focus is everywhere, I seem to notice everything, but the track, I struggle to remember tracks and they end up blending into one big run, unless I’m able to ride a track 10+ times, it often feels like it’s the first time I’ve ridden it. I notice every person on the sideline, every marshal, every spectator, every photographer, every dog. If I mess up a line, I get frustrated with myself and then miss every single line afterwards, the entire run feels like a battle, I’m quite hard on myself during a run and put myself down when I make a small mistake, but that negative energy sets the tone for the rest of the run, I feel inadequate and useless, so that’s how I start to ride. Probably like many people, I ride much better during practice, I’m more relaxed, there’s no pressure and I don’t get held up on any mistakes. I’ve had good results, I’ve had great results, but if Ben could really help me with my focus I know my riding would go above and beyond.

So let’s give this meditation a go. Ben gave me a posture that was easy to hold, whilst taking pressure off my spleen. I could stand there for an hour, still as anything, but one thing I struggled with and continue to struggle with, is; I can not switch my brain off. I’m not solving problems, finding solutions, fixing life… I’m simply thinking, my brain seems to be filled with irrelevant thoughts. I often drift out of a conversation because someone’s mentioned something, which I take away and start daydreaming… even though that person is still talking and on to a completely different subject already, and this is how I operate on the track.

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I have become more and more aware of my body, my brain, the way I cope, the way I present myself; it’s been a long process but I’m getting better. I still haven’t managed switching my brain off, and fallen into that deep meditation state (which sounds wonderful). However, I feel more present, I’m trying harder to really focus on conversations and not letting myself drift away, most night’s I fall asleep listening to an audiobook from Louise Hay. With the help from Ben, I’m reseting my mind process.

It’s great to see how more and more of the world are becoming awear of the benefits of meditation, and how important it is to look after yourself, not just your body, but just as importantly, your mind too.

Follow this link, showing the results from a school replacing detention with meditation → Click here

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Stay tuned to see how else Ben Calder can help me try to be the best version of me.

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Kinesiology… Magic

I am LOVING Spring!!!!! I’m back visiting the UK after a loooong winter in Canada, and what a beautiful time to come home.

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After visiting Ben Calder at the Centre for Integral Health last week, I felt much better, I really looked forward to visiting Ben all winter.

The first thing I’d noticed after our Bowen session, was my lower back pain had decreased, still there but just lingering with certain movements rather than constantly. That’s one thing I’ve noticed with the Bowen Technique, the movements are subtle, but extremely effective; the more time you give it, the more benefits you start to notice.

This week, I wasn’t sure what to focus on with Ben, there seemed to be many areas he could help with … but which ones first, what was more important? Ben decided he was going to find out what my body needed, seeing as I didn’t have a clue. Now this is what I find fascinating: I lie there silently while Ben hold’s up my arm, muttering all sorts of questions and solutions that I don’t really understand, but as Ben asks certain questions my body reacts giving him the answer he needs. It’s like watching magic, how can my body answer something that I don’t even understand. It’s just proof that what we do, see, say, smell, touch, is a tiny percentage of what’s actually going on in our bodies and mind.

Baz Luhrman say’s it well…

“Enjoy your body, use it every way you can, don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it… It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.”

Our bodies really are the greatest tools we’ll ever own, if we treat it well, it will look after us. Kinesiology is a fascinating and bizarrely accurate way of finding out what our bodies truly need. More often than not we end up giving our bodies something because it’s healthy and society says that’s what we should do, but every single person is different, and a diet/lifestyle suitable for one person isn’t necessarily best for another.

In my first Kinesiology session with Ben last year, I discovered I was a Red Body Type. There are just 3 body types which every single one of us fit in to, this doesn’t change from the day you’re born, the more sessions you have, the deeper the Kinesiologist will go with your personal requirements, but once you know you’re body type you can instantly start improving the quality of your life.  Within minutes Ben could tell me which sleep patterns suit me, when I should eat, what I should eat, what I shouldn’t eat, how much I should eat. Once we’re aware of what our bodies need, we can start functioning at our best. Although I technically had a very healthy diet, my body was only receiving 40% of the nutrients from the food I ate, there were certain foods restricting the abstraction of nutrients. I discovered my body works best on a low carb, high protein and moderate fat diet, I need breakfast first thing in the morning, an early nights sleep and an early wake up, I should be avoiding wheat and gluten and surprisingly, broccoli.

I’ve always thought I was more of a night Owl, regularly falling asleep after midnight, but on those occasions where I’d gone to sleep around 10pm, the following day would be far more productive and less of an effort. I feel happier within myself if I have an early morning with a good nights sleep; I had already started cutting back on wheat and carbs as I’d discovered they made me feel bloated and lethargic, but I never really liked eating breakfast too early.

When Ben told me all of the basic traits along with my body type, it instantly made sense; I became stricter with cutting out gluten, my sleep patterns and breakfast times. Within a week I had far more energy, I no longer felt sleepy throughout the day and the bloated feeling had gone. I was fascinated by the entire kinesiology process and raved about it to anyone and everyone who would listen.

My mum was very interested, and like myself, there were no specific issues she went in to fix, she was just curious. She was rather devastated to discover her body type should avoid all the night shade foods… Chilis, peppers, cheese, tomatoes, potatoes, aubergines etc. These were Mums absolute favourite foods, but, she gave it a go, for 6 weeks she did what was advised, if there were no changes, she’d just go back to eating her favourite foods.

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However, after a couple of weeks, the difference was incredible. None of us knew, but mum had been suffering with chronic joint pain, she’d learnt to live with it and suffered in silence for years. She’d had an operation on her Achilles tendon years ago and we knew the op didn’t work, which meant she had to stretch every morning before she could walk, but all throughout the day she was stiff and uncomfortable. Every night she’d call for my Dad to pull her off the sofa; she’s in her mid 40’s, full of life and a bit of a drama queen, so we just put it to Mum being a bit dramatic, lazy, and tired. However, after a few weeks on her new diet, she started jumping off the sofa to go to bed. Me and Dad just looked at each other wondering what was happening, then Mum told us how she’d been suffering with constant joint pain and it had now gone.

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So… back to my most recent session with Ben, he asked my body what it needed, and after carrying out a handful of tests he found an issue with my Neural repair, which requires B5 to correct itself. He also preformed a reset procedure to help certain hormones and biochemicals to function better.

I was sent home with instructions on where to find the B5 vitamins I needed, and our next appointment was in the diary.

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